It was so sweet of my dear friend, Lynn Chen, editor of The Actor’s Diet blog to ask me to be the guest today on her The Actor’s Diet podcast…so I thought some sweets from SK Donuts (on 3rd street in LA) were in order.
After all, donuts always make an early morning gab session go great!
Host, comedian, actor, counselor and life coach, Matt Marr, is not only a good friend and neighbor to me but he is also one of my biggest daily doses of inspiration.
He’s one of those people who inspires you and warms your heart with just a smile and a “Hey, Sugar”. And he’s a champion of mine – and of all who know him – who believes in you and brings out the best in you. I’m so grateful to know him.
So when I was feeling a little nervous last week about some upcoming meetings, I called Matt. Rather than just giving me a few words and sending me on my way, he said he was going to come by on Saturday morning and we would have a little preparatory pow-wow. And boy, did we!
When he shared this bit of meditative wisdom, I knew I had to share it with you guys. We started with a brief meditation and we all know I don’t usually take time – or shut up long enough – to meditate. But it was the lighting of a candle – and Matt’s words – that most helped me.
Matt said to let all of my insecurities, fear and stress be burned away with the lighting of the candle. “This candle needs fuel to burn and we’re going to let the fuel be all of your insecurities and fears.” Every time I had a negative thought, he’d say “There it goes! Just burned away!”
After Matty left, I felt more confident, calm, self-assured and ready to take on my meetings full of promise!
Today as I did my daily morning gratitude and writing session, I lit my favorite Ruth Anaya candles. And as I did so, I said this prayer:
“With the lighting of this candle, let all of my fears, insecurities and stress be burned away.”
Hope this helps you as much as Matty helped me!
Such a wonderful way to start a busy week!
BF Asks: How do you reduce your stress, fears and insecurities?
“The quickest way to acquire self-confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid to do.”
“Make up your mind what you want to be and what you want to do. Then take every path that might lead in that direction. Let everyone know what you want so they can help you. And they will. Be definite and determined. After a while, they see you are determined and you’re going to do it, and they will help you because they want to be a part of it.”
No one likes asking for help. It’s never easy to ask your friends to “Like” your Facebook page or follow you on Twitter or come to your show/store/etc.
But you have to.
It’s part of this thing that is life.
You ask others to be part of your journey and you are part of theirs.
And it makes the world a much happier place to live.
When I need to remember this, I just read the quote above that my friend, Chris, gave me and I get a little peace about it all.
“I want to think again of dangerous and noble things. I want to be light and frolicsome. I want to be improbable, beautiful and afraid of nothing as though I had wings.”
So what’s stopping you?
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face… Do the thing you think you cannot do.” (Eleanor Roosevelt)
The first time I read this, I cried.
It hit me. Hard.
But in the best possible spot.
Right. In. My. Soul.
I hope it has the same effect on you, dear beauties.
BF Asks: What is your deepest fear? p.s. Whatever it may be, NEVER let it immobilize you.